When Dating Online Should I Talk About My Bad Points?

Honesty is required when dating online - a fact that we have constantly stressed throughout this guide. So when you start to think about what you might put in your profile people often wonder just how honest is honest? Should you list all of your bad points as well?

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At first online dating can sometimes appear to be a bit of a minefield but we hope that we have demonstrated that with a bit of planning and forethought you will be ahead of the rest. There's no need to list all of your bad points because whilst you might consider them to be bad, others may believe that they make you who you are and give you that certain individualism. If you have particular dislikes or things that are really important to you then there's every reason to mention them. You might reduce the number of responses that you get but you will find that the people who do respond are interested in you for the way you are.

Many of us would rather like to be a few pounds lighter than we actually are and would quite like to bend the truth a little in our profile. It's very tempting when dating online to tell a few white lies. Don't! Just because you may have a few extra pounds doesn't mean that you're unattractive. In fact many people actively prefer their partners to be a bit more cuddly! People come in all shapes and sizes and there is someone out there for you whether you're slim or chubby or anywhere in between.

In a similar fashion, there are women who are single mothers that believe that they are in some way less desirable than women who are without children. Wrong! There are many men out there that appreciate the extra maturity that motherhood can bring to a relationship. You want meaningful responses from people that have gained the right impression of you - not a false image that you have projected. The bottom line is when you start online dating you should be honest and not cover up anything that you might believe will make you less attractive to some potential partners - it will make you more attractive to others.

Here at Pearmatch.co.uk we like to stress that each person is an individual - so show it. You'll read plenty of profiles that say something like "I've got a good sense of humour and like going out or staying in with a bottle of wine with good company. If you want to know more just ask." The person who writes this type of thing in their profile may well be 100% honest - but it's just not very inspiring is it? It doesn't make most people want to rush to write a message to them. We have a great deal of experience in this and can tell you that these profiles often get passed over for something more interesting... Aside from anything else it says 'Here I am but I can't be bothered to think of what to write - I expect you to make all the running'. Using singles sites doesn't mean that you can be lazy. You need to make an effort - if you don't then someone else will and you could miss out on a life changing experience.

Stuck for something to do on a date?:

There are plenty of walking guides published so why not pick a nice area near you and explore two or three of the thousands of miles of public footpaths and bridleways that we have in this country. Experience the quietness of a forest and the unexpected pleasure of catching a glimpse of animals in their natural surroundings. You could try to include a lazy pub lunch en route before setting off back. It's a great way to get away from the pressures of modern life for a few hours and talk with your date.

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